Any time you see a visibly pregnant woman, you may inadvertently say the wrong thing to her even if you mean well. However, you don’t know how she will take the comment, and if you are the one who is pregnant, you will agree that people can say things that are quite insensitive about you being pregnant even though they did not intend to come off that way at all. However, if you are the one who comes across a pregnant woman, here is a list of 10 things to not say to her. And, if you are the pregnant woman reading this, you will not be able to help but agree with what is listed here as well. Let’s go over the list of what not to say to any visible mom-to-be:
Are You Expecting Twins? – That is not an appropriate question to ask any pregnant women, including those who are indeed expecting multiples. That just is a clear indicator that you are commenting on how large they are. Pregnant women already know that they are carrying extra, and don’t need to be reminded,
You Look Like You Are About To Pop – That also is an indicator that you are commenting on how large the pregnant woman is. And, this is also not appropriate to say to pregnant women that are already overdue which only will add to their frustration over that as well. Overdue pregnant women want to be done with the pregnancy once and for all and telling them this will only remind them again that they are still very pregnant which they want to be over and done with.
You Are So Tiny And You Don’t Look Pregnant At All – Commenting on size when it comes to pregnancy is wrong one way or another. Some pregnant women don’t carry visibly, and some pregnant women are very sick during their pregnancies which actually makes them self-conscious knowing that they are not showing much due to weight loss. Either way, it is not the right thing to say at all.
You Look Farther Along Than X Weeks And I Bet Your Baby Will Come Early – That is another comment on the size that should not be said at all. Again, some pregnant women carry well, and some do not, and some appear to be carrying larger babies than they really are. But it is always best to keep that observation to yourself.
Wow, You Are Carrying The Baby Low, High, etc So You Must Be Having A Girl, Boy – First of all, it is an old wives tale that a pregnant woman is carrying low that she is having a boy, and if she is carrying high, then it is a girl. That is not true, and that also is not something to tell any pregnant woman. Especially if she just found out that she was having a boy and really wanted to have a girl, and is carrying high. That will only add salt to the wound.
Was It Planned? – That is not of anyone’s business whether the pregnancy was planned or not, and that is not an appropriate question to ask at all.
You Look Sick, Exhausted, Sad, etc – Yes, the pregnant woman may have all of those traits and there is not a reason to remind her of that at all.
You’ll Want To Know About My Traumatic Labor Story – No she does not want to know about that because there is no reason to scare her at all.
Should You Be Eating/Drinking That? – Whether or not the pregnant woman should be eating or drinking whatever you are pointing out, it is not anyone’s business. Even if she is eating something or drinking something that is not recommended for consumption during pregnancy.
Are You Going To Be Able To Handle A or Another Baby? – This is not a question to ask a first-time mom or a mom of other kids. She will find a way to care for the baby and you don’t need to ask whether she is capable or not. However, now that you are aware of what not to say to a pregnant woman, it doesn’t mean you have to stay silent either. But you just don’t want to say anything that can be considered rude which is in the list above. In the next post, you will learn about the right thing to say to a pregnant woman so this way you won’t need to walk on eggshells each time you walk by one.